We are living in an age where people do not believe in absolutes. However that does not change the fact that they have existed, are existing now, and will always exist. One absolute is that all of us are going to die. There is no getting around it. Sooner or later that day will come to each and every one of us. That includes you and me!

Not necessarily all of them ,but most American women want to age gracefully. That is why in 2013 they spent more than 426 billion dollars on creams, makeup and so on. It has been reported that every American woman spends more than fifteen thousand dollars on beauty products during her lifetime. That does not include what the men spend on lotions, creams and so on.

In the year 2016 the American people spent more than sixteen billion dollars on cosmetic surgery. That amount does include men and women, because there are quite a few men who are going through plastic cosmetic surgery. Of course, that number is rising annually, and there seems to be no ceiling in sight.

15% of the American population has a gym membership, spending more than $600 annually per capita, and a total of nineteen billion dollars per year. Those same people and a few others also spend about thirty-three billion dollars on sports equipment. All that money is spent trying to exercise to lose weight, have more muscle, better health, and to look better. In many, many cases when that exercise equipment is used correctly and regularly it does help a person be healthier, look better, and live longer.

Although many people are doing many things to age gracefully physically, and that does help their physical health, appearance, and state of mind, but it is much more important to age gracefully mentally, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually. The latter four will give a person more confidence, satisfaction, joy and happiness.

By being psychologically well-balanced you will be able to make wise and correct decisions. Your happiness will not depend on how strong you are physically, how young you may look, how good looking you may be, how beautiful your face and body may be, or even on how much money you may have. Instead your happiness will come by knowing who you are, what you stand for, and who God is in your life.

Because of your past, it may be that you may not be well-balanced psychologically. If that is your case, work on it. It is never too late. If you transform your mind (Romans 12:2), and decide to leave the past in the past, and to start a new, you will succeed. Take every negative thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5) immediately. Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can have a fresh start.

Hopefully you are emotionally stable, but if, for whatever reason, you are not, then start working on it immediately. Yes, you can do it. Do not let your emotions run you. As with everything thing else, the first step is to realize you have a problem. Once you admit it, then come up with some solutions. The next step is to discard the solutions that are not viable. They may not be viable for many reasons; too expensive, it takes too long, you don’t have the resources, it’s too far from you, you cannot miss work, and so on. Choose the best solution that is viable to you.

Do not confuse being religious with being spiritual. Being religious means believing in what a certain religion believes. It could be totally wrong, and many of the religions are. Many so-called religious people worship animals, the sun, other people who lived a long time ago, or even the devil. Spiritual people, on the other hand, worship the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, and have an intimate relationship with Him. Jesus, who is God in the flesh, said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except by Me.” – John 14:6.

You can age gracefully by maturing physically, mentally, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. That does not mean you are to neglect your physical health and appearance, but do not give them more importance than to the attributes mentioned in the previous statement.

In your legacy do not be known as a grumpy old lady or a cranky old man. Have people remember you as a loving person who always had nice, positive, and kind words for everyone – a person who was always kindly referred to as, “Grandma or Grandpa.”

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There are many reasons why people do not succeed, and why they stay stuck in a rut. People use many excuses, but also offer many good reasons as to why they have not succeeded. Many of those excuses and reasons are valid, while others are not. The chances are you have your own reasons as to why you are not where you should be.

Success, of course, has a different meaning for every person, and that is the way it should be.

Success for a professional runner could be running ten miles in a given amount of time. Success to an elderly person, who has been ill, might be walking six blocks. Success to a corporate business could be earning twenty million dollars in any given year, while to a mom and pop business it could be ending the year with a sixty-thousand–dollar profit.

Due to various reasons you might be a victim of circumstances. You may be a tribal person living in a remote area with very little or no technology, and no matter how hard you try you cannot escape the consequences of living in that environment. Unfortunately there are billions of people trapped living in jungles, under communism, or under a dictatorship. Success is next to impossible for many of those human beings.

Lack of education or expertise could be holding you back from achieving your goal. If that is the case, either go back to school, or find a way to gain the expertise needed. In order to succeed in any career, business or endeavor you have to know what you are doing. That only comes through education, research and experience. Somehow, somewhere, sometime you have to pay your dues. In other words, you have to learn the trade whatever it is.

Your friends or your own family may be holding you back. In most cases they mean well, but they discourage you because they think the job is too big for you. You know yourself better than anybody else. If you think you can do it, and are not afraid to put in long hours and to make sacrifices, go for it. Nothing and no one can stop you, but you yourself.

If low self-esteem is holding you back, you have to have more confidence in yourself. Read books on self-improvement, read the Bible, and talk to people who will encourage you and give you the correct advice. Move away from negative people. They will give you many reasons why you cannot succeed. Nevertheless all you need is a strong desire to succeed, and an attitude of “I am not going to quit no matter how long it takes, and how difficult it might be.” Determination will give you success if you go for it.

Afraid of failure may be holding you back. The people who have made it big in sports, as inventors, in the movie business, in the corporate world or in other fields have had many setbacks. What separated them from the ones who did not make it is that they never thought about quitting. The word “quit” was never in their repertoire and it should not be in yours. Make this saying your motto: “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Maybe your past is holding you back. You may be saying, “This article is fine and dandy, but I’ve never succeeded before.” That is because you have been thinking in a negative manner. You have to transform your mind, and your way of thinking (Romans 12:2). Find out what really motivates you, what you really want, learn all you can about what you are going to undertake, take a positive approach, don’t listen to naysayers, be willing to see it through, give it all you’ve got, and you will succeed.

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You probably have not giving it much thought as to how many choices you really have. The chances are you think you have an unlimited number of choices. However when we break down to the bare essentials you only have three choices. I know that does not sound correct or right, but that is the way it is.

Most people do not think about the three choices because in most cases they automatically choose the one that makes more sense to them, and do not even think about the other two or that they even exist. Nevertheless they exist and you should definitely take them into consideration before making any decision that has any significance whatsoever. As every Christian very well knows a wrong decision can bring eternal consequences.

What are those three choices? The first choice and the one that makes more sense to almost every human being is the one that pleases us. Yes, when making a choice most of us just think about ourselves. Therefore when making a decision we choose whatever pleases us. If it pleases us, we are happy with whatever the decision might have been. We do not bother to think how it will affect other people. After all, the most important thing is that it pleases us because in our world we are the most important person.

Some people and even all of us sometimes make decisions to please others. In other words, we please others out of love or responsibility, and of course that includes our family and our close friends. We make choices out of responsibility to our government, society, community, church and so on. All of us are subject to rules and regulations everywhere we are. Sometimes we have leeway and sometimes we don’t.

The third choice, of course, is to please God. God left us very explicit and clear instructions as to how to live this Christian life. The word of God delineates quite clearly as to what is right and what is wrong. With God there are no gray areas. We do not have to guess as to how to proceed in any given situation. If we are not sure as to what decision or choice to make, all we have to do is pray to God, and go to the Bible, and the answer will come to us.

Sometimes when we take the first choice – to please ourselves – we offend other people, hurt them somehow, or we do not help them as we should. Think of selfish parents or selfish children, and you will understand the point I am trying to make. Just thinking of pleasing ourselves all the time is the worst choice we can make. People like that wind up being and feeling completely empty.

Some people go too deep into the second choice – pleasing others – and that, although it seems like a noble thing to do, can actually be detrimental to them. The reason being is that they don’t really enjoy life. They are too busy thinking about the other person, and life just passes them by. It is almost as if they did not have a personality, let alone a life. It’s absolutely good to think of others and help them, but there has to be a limit to it.

The third choice is to please God. Although it may not be very popular, or make much sense at first glance, it is the best one. As hopefully you know, God has our best interest at heart. His will is the best thing for our lives. One of the best reasons for that is not only that He knows the future, but He can control it. In other words, He can make something good happen to me just because I am obedient to Him. What He is asking from us is obedience, not sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22).

Normally when we choose to please God it pleases us, and in most cases it pleases other people too. It is a win-win situation. The main reason, of course, is that God’s ways are much higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Let’s hope this article helps you in making the correct choices from now on. May our Lord Jesus Christ bless you with His presence, salvation, and physical blessings.

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